Keeping Up with the Kids

One of the hardest parts of a divorce is trying to protect your children during it. Going through a divorce is hard enough when you’re an adult who goes into the proceedings with your eyes open. But when you’re a child, it can feel as though your whole life is coming to a crashing end.

As the parent of a child of divorce, it’s your job to make this scary time of their lives a little less terrifying. It can be hard to deal with the ramifications of a divorce and to have the same relationship with your children when you see so much less of them. But it’s because of this that spending quality time with them becomes even more important.

Share Your Lives

Make sure you make time for you children. Plan activities you can do together based on their interests. If your son is a big baseball fan, you can take him to see a game, or if your daughter is interested in animals, you could take her on a trip to the zoo. Ask them about their lives: what they like in school, who their friends are, and what they do for fun. Tell them about your life. It is important that they feel connected to you.

It is also important not to try to make your children feel like they are in the middle of a conflict between you and your former spouse. The divorce process is hard enough for them without feeling like they are being competed over.

Contact Us

If your former spouse is not honoring your visitation rights, or if you have any other divorce-related questions, contact the San Diego divorce attorneys of Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP, by calling 760-722-7646.